Monday, April 7, 2014

The M.Guy Tweet, Week of March 30, 2014

1. Work, School And Marriage: Americans At Age 27, National Public Radio
By a substantial margin, women are more likely than men to be married at age 27 and generally, people with more education are more likely to be married than those with less.

2. Marriage Healthy for the Heart? Study Tracks Millions in U.S., NBC News
A study of more than 3.5 million Americans finds that married people are less likely than singles, divorced or widowed folks to suffer any type of heart or blood vessel problem.

3. Don't Worry, America: Millennials Still Want To Marry, Forbes
The latest Monitoring the Future report found that 78% of female high school seniors and 70% of males say that having a good marriage and family life is “extremely important” to them—numbers that are virtually unchanged since the 1970s.

4. Can We Strengthen Marriages? Results of the Supporting Healthy Marriage Evaluation, Family Studies
And they reported a little less psychological abuse, substance abuse, and infidelity, each of which is a strong predictor of subsequent divorce. SHM couples reported more marital happiness, greater warmth and support, and more positive and less negative communication, as well.

5. Divorce: It’s Way Bigger Than We Thought, Family Studies
Worse, when you control for the change in the age of the population between 1980 and today—the population of married men and women is considerably older now—the divorce rate has actually risen 40%. 

6. What If Everything You Knew About Poverty Was Wrong?, Mother Jones
He says Edin's work has helped inform his effort in Maryland to pass legislation overhauling the welfare system to focus not just on women and children, but on couples and joint parenting.

7. Advice for a Happy Life by Charles Murray, The Wall Street Journal
Many merger marriages are happy, but a certain kind of symbiosis, where two people become more than the sum of the individuals, is perhaps more common in startups.

For more, see here.

Sunday, March 23, 2014

The M.Guy Tweet, Week of March 16, 2014

1. Grieving the Gray Divorce, Chicago Tribune
As divorce rates among adults 50 and older continue to hit an all-time high, adult children of long-time married couples can find themselves shocked when their folks announce they're splitting — and find themselves grieving with few places to turn.

2. After Online Dating, Online Making Up, The New York Times
“It’s definitely helped, and now he’s getting to the point where he sends spontaneous affectionate messages on his own, which means a lot to me, and he seems more affectionate in general,” she said.

3. Time to "Go Ahead and Shack Up"?, Family Studies
Most people absorbing some aspect of recent news stories would conclude that there are no risks to cohabiting. [See the real findings about cohabition mid-article].

4. David Cameron and George Osborne Urged 'to Stop Ignoring £46 Billion Cost of Family Breakdowns', The Telegraph
A new report from the Relationship Foundation, a Cambridge-based think tank, finds that the cost of such breakdowns is £46 billion a year, equivalent to £1,541 per taxpayer.

5. Government-Funded Relationship Education Can Work, The Atlantic
The government has invested heavily in these programs because the single most important predictor of a father's engagement with his children is how well he and the mother get along, regardless of marital status.

6. Can Anything Really Be Done about Family Breakdown and American Poverty? A Q&A with Brad Wilcox, AEIdeas
I think we have to take a page here from the progress we’ve made on teen pregnancy in the United States, where we’ve cut the teen pregnancy rate by 50% in recent decades because of a concerted campaign that’s been supported by the government, by civic institutions, and by major cultural actors to get behind a common message to our younger Americans. . . And if we can change that behavior, who’s to say we can’t also reconnect marriage and parenthood for Americans in their 20s, where now, today, most non-marital births take place.

7. Teen Births Are Falling: What’s Going On?, Brookings
We attribute the decline in the more recent period in the U.S. to a continuation of those broadly experienced ongoing trends plus an acceleration due largely to the effects of the high unemployment rate and to the impact of media influences, particularly MTV’s reality TV show, 16 and Pregnant.

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Monday, March 10, 2014

The M.Guy Tweet, Week of March 2, 2014

1. Older Americans' Breakups Are Causing A 'Graying' Divorce Trend, NPR News
"Back in 1990, fewer than 1 in 10 persons who got divorced was over the age of 50," says Brown. But today, "1 in 4 people getting divorced is 50 or older."

2. For Utah Parents, Hurdle to Divorce Could Advance, ABC News
Alan Hawkins, a professor at Brigham Young University's School of Family Life, said Nielson's bill would help lower the numbers of people who divorce by installing a necessary yellow light.

3. Ala. Looks At Mandating Divorce Classes For Parents, USA Today
The bill, sponsored by GOP Rep. Bill Poole of Northport, Ala., would require couples with children younger than 16 to take a four-hour class to increase parents' sensitivity to their children's needs during a divorce or separation proceeding.

4. Surprisingly, Most Married Families Today Tilt Neo-Traditional, Family Studies
It’s new in the sense that today’s married dads do a lot more child care and housework than dads of the 1950s, and that most married moms are working in the paid labor force. But it’s “traditional” in the sense that most husbands take the lead when it comes to breadwinning, and most wives take the lead when it comes to childrearing.
 
5. All Sex All the Time, National Review Online
It would seem, though, that an effective approach to lowering the unplanned-pregnancy rate among unmarried twentysomething women wouldn’t encourage behaviors — such as drunken, casual sex or multiple sexual partners — that can have a negative long-term impact on the still nearly universal aspiration toward marriage.

6. The Father Factor: What Happens When Dad Is Nowhere To Be Found?, Deseret News
Twenty-four million American children - one in three - are growing up in homes without their biological fathers, the 2011 Census says. Children in father-absent homes, it notes, are almost four times more likely to be poor.
Twenty-four million American children — one in three — are growing up in homes without their biological fathers, the 2011 Census says. Children in father-absent homes, it notes, are almost four times more likely to be poor.
Read more at http://www.deseretnews.com/article/865597043/The-father-factor-What-happens-when-dad-is-nowhere-to-be-found.html#tmh4LytfCY9yOm4G.99
Twenty-four million American children — one in three — are growing up in homes without their biological fathers, the 2011 Census says. Children in father-absent homes, it notes, are almost four times more likely to be poor.
Read more at http://www.deseretnews.com/article/865597043/The-father-factor-What-happens-when-dad-is-nowhere-to-be-found.html#tmh4LytfCY9yOm4G.99
Twenty-four million American children — one in three — are growing up in homes without their biological fathers, the 2011 Census says. Children in father-absent homes, it notes, are almost four times more likely to be poor.
Read more at http://www.deseretnews.com/article/865597043/The-father-factor-What-happens-when-dad-is-nowhere-to-be-found.html#tmh4LytfCY9yOm4G.99

Twenty-four million American children — one in three — are growing up in homes without their biological fathers, the 2011 Census says. Children in father-absent homes, it notes, are almost four times more likely to be poor.
Read more at http://www.deseretnews.com/article/865597043/The-father-factor-What-happens-when-dad-is-nowhere-to-be-found.html#tmh4LytfCY9yOm4G.99
7. How to Talk So Your Partner Will Listen, WebMD
Researchers at the University of Chicago found that most married couples don't communicate with their partners any better than they do with strangers.

For more, see here.

Monday, February 24, 2014

The M.Guy Tweet, February 16, 2014

1. The All-or-Nothing Marriage, The New York Times
The average marriage today is weaker than the average marriage of yore, in terms of both satisfaction and divorce rate, but the best marriages today are much stronger, in terms of both satisfaction and personal well-being, than the best marriages of yore.

2. The Science Behind a Happy Relationship (Graphic), Happify
[Example] Couples who can put a positive spin on their marriage have a 94% chance of experiencing a happy future together.

3. 5 Facts About Love And Marriage, Pew Research Center
In a Pew Research Center survey conducted last year, 88% of Americans cited love as a “very important” reason to get married, ahead of making a lifelong commitment (81%) and companionship (76%). 

4. Marriage Quality May Influence Heart Disease Risk, The Chicago Tribune
"The most intriguing finding was that within a couple, only if both of them felt ambivalent towards their partner did you see this elevated (heart disease) risk," said Bert Uchino, a psychologist at the University of Utah and lead author of the study.

5. How Single Motherhood Hurts Kids, The New York Times
The typical American single mother is younger than her counterpart in other developed nations. She is also more likely to live in a community where single motherhood is the norm rather than an alternative life choice.

6. Marriage Bonus and Penalty Tax Calculator, Tax Policy Center: Urban Institute and Brookings Institution
Conversely, the couple receives a “marriage bonus” if its partners pay less income tax as a married couple than they would have as two single individuals.

7. In Our Opinion: Fatherhood Hasn't Received The Attention It Deserves, Deseret News
“The time a dad spends with his children is a particularly strong predictor of how empathetic a child will become. . ."

For more, see here

Monday, February 17, 2014

The M.Guy Tweet, February 9, 2014

1. Love, Actually: Teaching Generation Y The Basics Of A Strong Relationship, New York Times
Their romance operandi — hooking up and hanging out — flouts the golden rule of what makes marriages and love work: emotional vulnerability.

2. What's The Secret To A Long And Lasting Marriage? (VIDEO), Fox News
Divorce and unwed childbearing cost US taxpayers a whooping 112 billion dollars every year and is costing our country in more ways than one.

3. Candy And Flowers: Romance Alive And Well Among Young Couples, Washington Times
"The fact that we know we can really help couples succeed in their relationship together is encouraging, said Ms. Howell. “As young couples gain access to these classes, it really helps build [their] confidence that we, as a young couple, can make it together.”

4. Forever Valentine: Study Shows Marriage Gets Better In Old Age, UC Berkley News Center
The emotional story for long-term marriages is really quite positive. People who get through the first 15 years of marriage learn to value each other.

5. Marriage Education Programs Can Help Low-income Families But Need Bolstering, Report Says, Deseret News
The interventions are especially crucial for children because kids in unstable families "suffer physically, have mental health issues, they're lonelier, and just like the intergenerational cycle of poverty, there's intergenerational transmission of divorce," said Hawkins.

6. Culture Of Divorce, Wealth Of Options Conspire To Keep Singles Single, Knox News
One is cultural, he said, as the first generation of children to grow up witnessing mass divorce (now in their 20s and 30s) worry that relationships are so risky that they constantly hedge their bets.

7. Map: The Countries That Feel the Most Love in the World, The Atlantic
That last stat comes from what the economist Justin Wolfers has described as "the most comprehensive global index of love ever constructed."

For more, see here

Monday, February 10, 2014

The M.Guy Tweet, February 2, 2014

1. How When Harry Met Sally Explains Inequality, The Atlantic
That's high-earning college grads marrying each other—which a new paper estimates has increased inequality by 25 percent.

2. Does A More Equal Marriage Mean Less Sex?, New York Times
Couples in which the husband did plenty of traditionally male chores reported a 17.5 percent higher frequency of sexual intercourse than those in which the husband did none.

3. New Census Data Show More Americans Are Tying The Knot, But Mostly It’s The College-Educated, Pew Research
Thus, almost the entire increase in new marriages (87%) from 2011 to 2012 is accounted for by the college-educated.

4. Marriage: What’s Love Got To Do With It? Historically? Very Little, Salt Lake Tribune
The ideal of love as a primary reason for marriage began to spread in the late 18th century and early 19th century, partly due to the French and American revolutions.

5. Poll: Is Dating Too Expensive?, The Guardian
"We're all going to be single forever because no one knows they're on a date anymore," TIME lamented last month, prompted by a survey from online dating powerhouses JDate and Christian Mingle which showed that 72% of singles ages 25-29 were confused about whether or not they were on a date.

6. Unequal Partners, Slate
Among college-educated people, in particular, the tendency is not so much to marry within your community as to marry within your educational cohort.

7. National Marriage Week USA Tool Kit, National Marriage Week USA
From February 7th to 14th every year -- is a collaborative campaign to strengthen individual marriages, reduce the divorce rate, and build a stronger marriage culture, which in turn helps curtail poverty and benefits children.

For more, see here

Monday, January 27, 2014

The M.Guy Tweet, Week of January 19, 2014

1. Does Marriage Make Sense For Millennials?, Forbes
A scant 30% claim that a successful marriage is an important achievement for them, well behind priorities such as having a high-earning career or being a good parent.

2. Millennials Talk Marriage: For Richer And For Poorer, The Guardian
To find out how millennials really feel about marriage, we turned to Guardian readers and asked: is marriage dead, or is this all about money? Sifting through responses from all over the world, we discovered that marriage isn’t as unpopular among millennials as one would think. 

3. Love and Work on a Timetable, The Wall Street Journal
Some couples respond by making career tradeoffs right away. Others avoid committing to a relationship at all. Ms. Fayal and Mr. Blake chose a third way.

4. Three Policies to Close the Class Divide in Family Formation, The Brookings Institution 
For unmarried women under 30, 70% of pregnancies are unintended. And unintended pregnancy is most common among those with the least advantage.

5. Study: Conservative Protestants’ Divorce Rates Spread To Their Red State Neighbors, The Washington Post
“What I can see in this study is the obvious shortcomings of a culture of ‘romantic individualism,’ one that’s toxic to marriage, rather than a warning to wait until you’re ‘older’ to marry.”

6. Daddy Track: The Case for Paternity Leave, The Atlantic
Paternity leave is a chance to intervene at what one study called “a crucial time of renegotiation”: those early, sleep-deprived weeks of diaper changes and midnight feedings, during which couples fall into patterns that turn out to be surprisingly permanent.

7. Colorado Initiative Would Mandate Pre-wedding Education, The Washington Post
A proposed initiative that could land a spot on the Colorado ballot would require couples who want to get married to go through 10 hours of pre-wedding marriage education.

For more, see Can You Learn To Wed? Law Proposed For Pre-marriage Classes (VIDEO), Today Show [Note: Start at 9:10]

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