Monday, May 19, 2014

The M.Guy Tweet, Week of May 11, 2014

1. Mother's Day 100-Year History A Colorful Tale Of Love, Anger and Civic Unrest, Deseret News
As they celebrate the day with their moms, most children — young or old — won’t know it’s in fact a holiday with a colorful history, started by a woman who adored her own mother but later tried very hard to take the holiday back.

2. Divorce Corp Documentary: How To Make Divorce Better, Forbes
The name of the film is Divorce Corp. . . It’s a $50 billion a year industry. How did it become this big? What are the problems with the current process, and what are some of the solutions?

3. Kevin Durant And The Absence Of Fathers, The Seattle Times
As such, the speech was a testimony to the power of a mother’s love. But it was also a reminder: A father’s absence has power, too. [See tribute to his mother here.]

4. Divorce Is Hardest on Already Disadvantaged Children, Family Studies
It was his analysis of the “Marital Instability Over the Life Course” study. . . that showed how it’s not the end of high-conflict marriages that injures children but the end of low-conflict ones. (Half of U.S. divorces are low-conflict.)

5. Love Overcomes Life’s Inevitable Sorrow, The Washington Post
My husband was part of the Grant Study at Harvard, which starting in 1938 examined nearly 300 “normal” male students. . . came to this conclusion about what made the subjects happy: “Happiness is love. Full stop.”

6. Why Men Resist Marriage Even Though They Benefit the Most From It, Family Studies
They associated marriage with a number of increased responsibilities and with a greater possibility of financial loss.

7. In Relationships, Understanding—Not Agreement—Is Key, Why?, Psychology Today
Conflicts in couples’ viewpoints needn’t cause conflicts in their relationship.

For more, see here.

Monday, May 12, 2014

The M.Guy Tweet, Week of April 27, 2014

1. Shotgun Weddings Give Way to Cohabitation in Surprise Pregnancies, The Washington Post
The latest analyses by researchers from those federal agencies — not yet published — suggest a drop to single digits as more couples opt to live together rather than marry and don’t want a child to rush them into marriage.

2. Working-Class Fathers Shouldn’t Be So Easily Dismissed, The New York Times
More and more young women are already making the choice to raise children alone, but while that choice may be rational, we as a society should hesitate before embracing it as a way forward or even accepting it as a done deal.

3. Fewer Marriages, More Divergence: Marriage Projections for Millennials to Age 40, The Urban Institute
We find that the percentage of millennials marrying by age 40 will fall lower than for any previous generation of Americans, even in a scenario where marriage rates recover considerably. 

4. The Case for Divorce Reform, Family Studies
Polling consistently shows that more than half of Americans favor more speed bumps on the road to divorce, especially for couples with children.

5. The Market Forces Behind the Marriage Gap, Family Studies
These changes fundamentally alter marriage markets—that is, the terms on which men and women find it worthwhile to forge lasting relationships—and they do so in ways that take the top and the bottom of the socio-economic system in different directions.

6. New Study Says Divorce Can Be Contagious, CBSNews
The study [from Brown University] found that 75 percent of participants were more likely to get divorced if a friend was divorced, and 33 percent were more likely to end their marriage even if a friend of a friend got divorced.

7. The Science of Happily Ever After: How Millennials Beat the Odds to Find Love, TIME
It’s what social psychologist Barry Schwartz calls the “tyranny of freedom”: a feeling of being overwhelmed, uncertain and anxious when we are given too many choices and no updated framework for managing those choices.

For more, see here.