1. Marriage Rate Lowest in a Century, Bowling Green State University
That equals roughly 31 marriages per 1,000 unmarried women. Compare that
to 1920, when the marriage rate was a staggering 92.3.
2. Special Forces' Marriages on Shaky Ground, Survey Shows, USA Today
Marriages among many of the nation's elite troops — Navy SEALs, Green
Berets, Rangers and others — are so damaged after years of war that one
in five commandos say that if given the chance, they would have married
someone else or not at all.
3. The Experts: Getting Married? Read These Financial Tips, The Wall Street Journal
[D]raft our financial dream plan together. How many kids did we want?
How often and where would we vacation? How would we handle the fact that
one of us had enough for a small down payment on our first house, and
the other had no savings at all?
4. Sex on Campus: She Can Play That Game, Too, The New York Times
But Elizabeth A. Armstrong, a sociologist at the University of Michigan
who studies young women’s sexuality, said that women at elite
universities were choosing hookups because they saw relationships as too
demanding and potentially too distracting from their goals.
5. Unmarried Cheating: Stepping Out in Unmarried, Serious Romantic Relationship, Sliding vs. Deciding
The headline is that overall relationship quality mattered
most in explaining who, in unmarried romantic relationships, was most likely to
step out on their partner. . . Contrary to
what you might have guessed, sexual frequency and sexual satisfaction with the
partner were not associated with cheating.
6. Chart of the Week: Marriage Guards Children Against Poverty, The Heritage Foundation
“We know the statistics—that children who grow up without a father are
five times more likely to live in poverty and commit crime, nine times
more likely to drop out of schools, and 20 times more likely to end up
in prison,” then-Senator Obama stated in Chicago just a few months before the 2008 presidential election.
7. Power Move: ‘From Fatherless to Fatherhood’ to Air on Oprah Winfrey Network, Atlanta Blackstar
"It provides a glimpse into the lives and perspectives of those from a Hollywood film executive to a mother of six, around the meaning and
value of quality manhood and fatherhood."
For more, see here.
Monday, July 29, 2013
Monday, July 22, 2013
The M.Guy Tweet, Week of July 7, 2013
1. How The 'Fatherless Sons' Epidemic Extends To Children Whose Dads Are Present (Oprah VIDEO), The Huffington Post
2. When Couples Cooperate Well, Men Follow Women’s Emotions While Women Regulate, The Washington Post
Researchers from the University of Arizona found that, for couples who cooperate well, men tend to mimic their partner’s mood while women try to regulate their partner’s emotions.
3. Happily Married Means a Healthier Ever After, Science Daily
"[T]his study also shows happy marriages have a preventative component that keeps you in good health over the years."
4. Men and Women Often Expect Different Things When They Move In Together, The Atlantic
Moreover, a large minority (41 percent) of men report that they are not "completely committed" to their live-in girlfriends.
5. Marriage Advice: There Is Truth In The Saying, ‘Love Is Blind’, News-Sentinel
[W]hen we get close to someone and begin to like them, there is reduced activity in the areas of the brain associated with critical social assessment and in the areas necessary for making negative judgments.
6. The Terrible Toll Of Making Divorce Easier: Children Are More Likely To Be Violent, Take Drugs And Have Underage Sex, The Daily Mail
The research revealed the legacy of broken homes appears to weigh more heavily than any other factor, as among the worst affected group -- those with four or more ACEs [adverse childhood experiences] -- two thirds had seen their parents go their separate ways, compared with an average of 24 per cent.
7. Facilitating Forever, Coalition for Divorce Reform
Scholars and therapists know a lot about how to form and sustain. . . healthy relationships. We need to get that knowledge out of academia’s ivory towers and clinician’s wood-paneled offices to the public.
For more, see here.
2. When Couples Cooperate Well, Men Follow Women’s Emotions While Women Regulate, The Washington Post
Researchers from the University of Arizona found that, for couples who cooperate well, men tend to mimic their partner’s mood while women try to regulate their partner’s emotions.
3. Happily Married Means a Healthier Ever After, Science Daily
"[T]his study also shows happy marriages have a preventative component that keeps you in good health over the years."
4. Men and Women Often Expect Different Things When They Move In Together, The Atlantic
Moreover, a large minority (41 percent) of men report that they are not "completely committed" to their live-in girlfriends.
5. Marriage Advice: There Is Truth In The Saying, ‘Love Is Blind’, News-Sentinel
[W]hen we get close to someone and begin to like them, there is reduced activity in the areas of the brain associated with critical social assessment and in the areas necessary for making negative judgments.
6. The Terrible Toll Of Making Divorce Easier: Children Are More Likely To Be Violent, Take Drugs And Have Underage Sex, The Daily Mail
The research revealed the legacy of broken homes appears to weigh more heavily than any other factor, as among the worst affected group -- those with four or more ACEs [adverse childhood experiences] -- two thirds had seen their parents go their separate ways, compared with an average of 24 per cent.
7. Facilitating Forever, Coalition for Divorce Reform
Scholars and therapists know a lot about how to form and sustain. . . healthy relationships. We need to get that knowledge out of academia’s ivory towers and clinician’s wood-paneled offices to the public.
For more, see here.
Monday, July 8, 2013
Monday, July 1, 2013
The M.Guy Tweet, Week of June 23, 2013
1. The Perils of Giving Advice, The Wall Street Journal
[B]oth husbands and wives feel lower marital satisfaction when they are given too much advice from a spouse, as opposed to too little. And—surprise!—unsolicited advice is the most damaging kind.
2. Relationships in Later Life and Why They Matter, Huffington Post
91% of people in couples said their relationship with their partner was the most important thing for a happy retirement.
3. The Disestablishment of Marriage, The New York Times
The rising age of marriage, combined with the increase in divorce and cohabitation since the 1960s, means that Americans spend a longer period of their adult lives outside marriage than ever before.
4. With Stress Down and Happiness Up, Old Age Can Be the Time of Your Life, The Washington Post
Satisfaction with social relationships grows. Seniors typically have a smaller but closer circle of friends than younger adults, research shows. That’s because older people tend to focus on close friends and family members who are important for their emotional bonds.
5. SIMMONS: Cosby Gets Serious about Fatherhood, The Washington Post
“A father. . . who is there for his children, who is there with the mother, completes the love package for the child,” Mr. Cosby said. “[A son] sees that mom is happy, and he can emulate that, carry that love to his own children.
6. The Forever Initiative, The National Healthy Marriage Resource Center
While the causes of family instability are many and deep, Hawkins argues that this public policy agenda of educational initiatives can make more young people today better drivers of their romantic relationships, more competent at avoiding destructive detours, and more capable of achieving their marital aspirations and destinations.
7. Dads Who Bond With Kids Help Keep Marriage Strong, WebMD
Doing household chores and being engaged with the children seem to be important ways for husbands to connect with their wives, and that connection is related to better relationships, Galovan explained.
For more, see here.
[B]oth husbands and wives feel lower marital satisfaction when they are given too much advice from a spouse, as opposed to too little. And—surprise!—unsolicited advice is the most damaging kind.
2. Relationships in Later Life and Why They Matter, Huffington Post
91% of people in couples said their relationship with their partner was the most important thing for a happy retirement.
3. The Disestablishment of Marriage, The New York Times
The rising age of marriage, combined with the increase in divorce and cohabitation since the 1960s, means that Americans spend a longer period of their adult lives outside marriage than ever before.
4. With Stress Down and Happiness Up, Old Age Can Be the Time of Your Life, The Washington Post
Satisfaction with social relationships grows. Seniors typically have a smaller but closer circle of friends than younger adults, research shows. That’s because older people tend to focus on close friends and family members who are important for their emotional bonds.
5. SIMMONS: Cosby Gets Serious about Fatherhood, The Washington Post
“A father. . . who is there for his children, who is there with the mother, completes the love package for the child,” Mr. Cosby said. “[A son] sees that mom is happy, and he can emulate that, carry that love to his own children.
6. The Forever Initiative, The National Healthy Marriage Resource Center
While the causes of family instability are many and deep, Hawkins argues that this public policy agenda of educational initiatives can make more young people today better drivers of their romantic relationships, more competent at avoiding destructive detours, and more capable of achieving their marital aspirations and destinations.
7. Dads Who Bond With Kids Help Keep Marriage Strong, WebMD
Doing household chores and being engaged with the children seem to be important ways for husbands to connect with their wives, and that connection is related to better relationships, Galovan explained.
For more, see here.
Monday, June 24, 2013
The M.Guy Tweet, Week of June 16, 2013
1. The New American Father, Pew Research: Social and Demographic Trends
A new survey by the Pew Research Center finds that Americans expect dad to be more of a moral teacher and emotional comforter than a breadwinner or disciplinarian.
2. Parents and Children, Maybe I Do: Modern Marriage and the Pursuit of Happiness
“Security is the one thing (children) need and if there is that security of the parental relationship, that’s about the best gift those kids can be given,” he said.
3. Daddy’s Home, Slate
By contrast, men who don’t live with their children, either because they never married the mother in the first place, or got divorced, often don’t look much different than childless men. Three findings illustrate the point:. . .
4. The Distinct, Positive Impact of a Good Dad, The Atlantic
But there are at least four ways, spelled out in my new book, Gender and Parenthood: Biological and Social Scientific Perspectives (co-edited with Kathleen Kovner Kline), that today's dads tend to make distinctive contributions to their children's lives. . .
5. Marriage Rate May Be Low, But More Weddings Predicted, USA Today
Cultural changes about whether and when to marry, the fact that two-thirds of first marriages are preceded by cohabitation and the recession's financial fallout — including unemployment and underemployment — fueled the wedding decline.
6. Five-Year Study Documents The Positive Impact Of Relationship And Marriage Education Programs In California, YahooNews
[Outcome 1 of 5] Both men and women reported positive impacts from RME attendance, with nearly three-quarters (74%) of participants experiencing increases in problem-solving abilities.
7. Marriage, the Job: The Hard Work in ‘Before Midnight,’ Amour’ and Other Films and Shows, The New York Times
Ben Affleck caught some flak earlier this year when, in the course of his Oscar-night thank-yous, in front of a billion of his closest friends, he referred to his marriage to Jennifer Garner as “work.”
For more, see here.
A new survey by the Pew Research Center finds that Americans expect dad to be more of a moral teacher and emotional comforter than a breadwinner or disciplinarian.
2. Parents and Children, Maybe I Do: Modern Marriage and the Pursuit of Happiness
“Security is the one thing (children) need and if there is that security of the parental relationship, that’s about the best gift those kids can be given,” he said.
3. Daddy’s Home, Slate
By contrast, men who don’t live with their children, either because they never married the mother in the first place, or got divorced, often don’t look much different than childless men. Three findings illustrate the point:. . .
4. The Distinct, Positive Impact of a Good Dad, The Atlantic
But there are at least four ways, spelled out in my new book, Gender and Parenthood: Biological and Social Scientific Perspectives (co-edited with Kathleen Kovner Kline), that today's dads tend to make distinctive contributions to their children's lives. . .
5. Marriage Rate May Be Low, But More Weddings Predicted, USA Today
Cultural changes about whether and when to marry, the fact that two-thirds of first marriages are preceded by cohabitation and the recession's financial fallout — including unemployment and underemployment — fueled the wedding decline.
6. Five-Year Study Documents The Positive Impact Of Relationship And Marriage Education Programs In California, YahooNews
[Outcome 1 of 5] Both men and women reported positive impacts from RME attendance, with nearly three-quarters (74%) of participants experiencing increases in problem-solving abilities.
7. Marriage, the Job: The Hard Work in ‘Before Midnight,’ Amour’ and Other Films and Shows, The New York Times
Ben Affleck caught some flak earlier this year when, in the course of his Oscar-night thank-yous, in front of a billion of his closest friends, he referred to his marriage to Jennifer Garner as “work.”
For more, see here.
Monday, June 17, 2013
The M.Guy Tweet, Week of June 9, 2013
1. Parental Relationships and Obesity in Children, The British Psychological Society
[W]hile children in a traditional two-parent married household have a 17 per cent obesity rate, this climbs to 31 per cent for young people living with cohabiting parents.
2. Unequal, Unfair, and Unhappy: The 3 Biggest Myths About Marriage Today, The Atlantic
Most husbands and wives make about equal total contributions to the paid and unpaid work needed to sustain a family, judge their marriages to be fair, and are happily married.
3. A Million Children Grow Up Without Fathers, Report Warn, The Independent
Since 1996, the number of people cohabiting has doubled to nearly six million, but cohabiting parents are three times more likely to separate by the time a child is five than married couples.
4. Paper: Trends in Cohabitation, 1987-2010, National Council on Family Relations
The percentage of women ages 19-44 who have ever cohabited has increased by 82% over the past 23 years. In 1987, one-third of women had ever cohabited, and in 2009-2010, three-fifths (60%) had ever cohabited.
5. The Gay People Against Gay Marriage, BBC
But while favourable rulings will spark celebrations among pro-marriage supporters across the US, some gay men and women will instead see it as a victory for a patriarchal institution that bears no historical relevance to them.
6. The Sheer Complexity of Love, Positive Psychology News Daily
Fredrickson separates love as a frequent passing experience from commitment, truth, and trust. Commitment she sees as a special bond, an outcome of love. Love is fleeting, but on the upside, love is forever renewable.
7. Unmarried, With Children, Arizona Daily Sun
"Women and men who have children outside of marriage are younger on average, have less education, and have lower income than married parents," according to researchers at the U.S. Census.
For more, see here.
[W]hile children in a traditional two-parent married household have a 17 per cent obesity rate, this climbs to 31 per cent for young people living with cohabiting parents.
2. Unequal, Unfair, and Unhappy: The 3 Biggest Myths About Marriage Today, The Atlantic
Most husbands and wives make about equal total contributions to the paid and unpaid work needed to sustain a family, judge their marriages to be fair, and are happily married.
3. A Million Children Grow Up Without Fathers, Report Warn, The Independent
Since 1996, the number of people cohabiting has doubled to nearly six million, but cohabiting parents are three times more likely to separate by the time a child is five than married couples.
4. Paper: Trends in Cohabitation, 1987-2010, National Council on Family Relations
The percentage of women ages 19-44 who have ever cohabited has increased by 82% over the past 23 years. In 1987, one-third of women had ever cohabited, and in 2009-2010, three-fifths (60%) had ever cohabited.
5. The Gay People Against Gay Marriage, BBC
But while favourable rulings will spark celebrations among pro-marriage supporters across the US, some gay men and women will instead see it as a victory for a patriarchal institution that bears no historical relevance to them.
6. The Sheer Complexity of Love, Positive Psychology News Daily
Fredrickson separates love as a frequent passing experience from commitment, truth, and trust. Commitment she sees as a special bond, an outcome of love. Love is fleeting, but on the upside, love is forever renewable.
7. Unmarried, With Children, Arizona Daily Sun
"Women and men who have children outside of marriage are younger on average, have less education, and have lower income than married parents," according to researchers at the U.S. Census.
For more, see here.
Monday, June 10, 2013
The M.Guy Tweet, Week of June 2, 2013
1. Breadwinning Wives and Nervous Husbands, The New York Times
[T]raditional views of gender identity, particularly the view that the right and proper role of the husband is to make more money than the wife, are affecting choices of whom to marry, how much to work, and even whether to stay married.
2. Marriage Advice: Sharing a Hobby is Good for Your Relationship, The Wall Street Journal
New experiences also can activate the brain’s reward system, flooding it with powerful neurochemicals related to pleasure and bonding—the same circuits triggered when a person first falls in love.
3. More Satisfaction, Less Divorce for People Who Meet Spouses Online, TIME
When it comes to playing Cupid, it’s still not clear whether online dating ultimately makes better matches. But given the large number of people who meet their mates this way, the good news is that at least it doesn’t seem to make matters any worse.
4. Uncoupling the Hookup Culture, The Sacramento Bee
Harvard sophomore Lisa Mogilanski put it this way: "Hookup culture is an unnavigable mush of vague intentions and desires. ... We can try to dress it up as being freeing or equalizing the genders, but I fear it only leaves us equally impoverished."
5. Kathleen Parker: ‘Father’ is the New F-Word, The Wichita Eagle
Contrary to the Hollywood version of single motherhood, a trend that began with Murphy Brown more than 20 years ago, single mothers are more likely to be younger, black or Hispanic, and less educated, according to Pew, and they have a median family income of $23,000.
6. Marriage Research: Survey Finds Marriage More Important to Happiness than Salary, Owning a Home, The Huffington Post
The U.K.'s Office of National Statistics recently surveyed 165,000 British people. . . They found that being married is 20 times more important to a person's happiness than their earnings and 13 times more important than owning a home.
7. Myths about Relationships, Leadership
Myth: A good relationship means that you don’t have to work at it.
Fact: “The strongest most enduring relationships take lots of hard work. . ." [O]ur culture, education system and parenting styles don’t prepare us for the fact that even good relationships take effort.
For more, see here.
[T]raditional views of gender identity, particularly the view that the right and proper role of the husband is to make more money than the wife, are affecting choices of whom to marry, how much to work, and even whether to stay married.
2. Marriage Advice: Sharing a Hobby is Good for Your Relationship, The Wall Street Journal
New experiences also can activate the brain’s reward system, flooding it with powerful neurochemicals related to pleasure and bonding—the same circuits triggered when a person first falls in love.
3. More Satisfaction, Less Divorce for People Who Meet Spouses Online, TIME
When it comes to playing Cupid, it’s still not clear whether online dating ultimately makes better matches. But given the large number of people who meet their mates this way, the good news is that at least it doesn’t seem to make matters any worse.
4. Uncoupling the Hookup Culture, The Sacramento Bee
Harvard sophomore Lisa Mogilanski put it this way: "Hookup culture is an unnavigable mush of vague intentions and desires. ... We can try to dress it up as being freeing or equalizing the genders, but I fear it only leaves us equally impoverished."
5. Kathleen Parker: ‘Father’ is the New F-Word, The Wichita Eagle
Contrary to the Hollywood version of single motherhood, a trend that began with Murphy Brown more than 20 years ago, single mothers are more likely to be younger, black or Hispanic, and less educated, according to Pew, and they have a median family income of $23,000.
6. Marriage Research: Survey Finds Marriage More Important to Happiness than Salary, Owning a Home, The Huffington Post
The U.K.'s Office of National Statistics recently surveyed 165,000 British people. . . They found that being married is 20 times more important to a person's happiness than their earnings and 13 times more important than owning a home.
7. Myths about Relationships, Leadership
Myth: A good relationship means that you don’t have to work at it.
Fact: “The strongest most enduring relationships take lots of hard work. . ." [O]ur culture, education system and parenting styles don’t prepare us for the fact that even good relationships take effort.
For more, see here.
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